Howdy!

My social media break is coming to an end, but I might do another week! Anything happening that I absolutely need to know about?

Before you replay your algorithm, let’s chat first!

I wasn’t always great at asking for what I wanted, but over time, I built my asking muscle. And when I look back at what helped me the most, it really comes down to these four things:

1. Confidence

You knew this would be first! And honestly? Sometimes my confidence teeters on entitlement. But it’s worked in my favor because I tend to think: “Why wouldn’t this work out for me?”

Confidence in asking isn’t about being cocky, it’s about believing that you are worthy of the opportunity. If you don’t believe in yourself, why in the hell should anyone else?

2. Observation

I pay close attention to people who get what they want. And more often than not, it’s because they ask the right questions.

• Sometimes it’s a direct ask (“Can I have this opportunity?”)

• Sometimes it’s indirect (“Do you know someone I should talk to?”)

• Sometimes it’s seeking advice (“How would you approach this?”)

The lesson? People who ask often and ask strategically tend to win.

3. Having Mentors 

I’ll be real: I’m not a great mentor, but I’m an excellent mentee.

Having mentors has strengthened my asking muscle because I’ve had to:

• Ask very busy people for their time.

• Ask for honest advice (even when it’s hard to hear).

• Ask for guidance on things I didn’t know how to navigate.

The ability to ask someone for help without feeling like a burden is a skill in itself.

4. Resilience 

Not every ask will get a yes. But great askers don’t stop just because they hear “no.”

I’ve had plenty of asks get ignored, declined, or met with silence. And yeah, sometimes it hurts. But the people who get the most opportunities? They keep asking anyway. They don’t take rejection personally. They follow up, refine, and try again. They treat “no” as “not yet” rather than “never.”

If you never take any other advice from me, please take this: Most of the time, you’re just one more ask away from getting what you want.

Now It’s Your Turn

What has helped you strengthen your asking muscle?
Do you see yourself in any of these, or is your experience different?

See y’all next Friday,